![\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/10/24/68fb6528ae606.png\" "\\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\\"")
\n 图1
桥友圈2025年天翼秋季联赛第八轮，第3副，四手牌如图1所示，东西单有局，南发牌。
\n此牌东西方的7s是成功概率很大的合理定约。
\n全场48张桌子，只有9桌叫到了7s，14桌叫到6s，叫上7s的属优秀，叫到6s的及格，其余均未叫到小满贯，也有少数桌子叫到错误的6n、7n定约，这些都属叫牌不及格的。
\n是什么原因导致未叫上7s或6s呢？都是对手干扰所致吗？
\n本文通过分析正（成功叫到7s、6s的）、反（未叫上小满贯)两个方面的牌例，试图从中找出些蛛丝马迹，以总结经验和教训。
\n
\n 图1
第1桌，南2h![\"❤\"](\"https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/16.0.1/72x72/2764.png\")
弱阻，西不假思索争叫3d，北Pass。
东面临猜断，西多半没有4张![\"♠\"](\"https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/16.0.1/72x72/2660.png\")
，不然会加倍，有没有3张以上草花呢，也不一定。东![\"♦\"](\"https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/16.0.1/72x72/2666.png\")
单张失配，虽然手持18hcp，如果找不到将牌配合，满贯希望不大。
有心扣叫3h，又担心错过nt成局定约，东遂折衷叫3n，所有人均Pass。
\n总共有4桌是上面这个叫牌进程。
\n![\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/10/24/68fb657cb1205.png\" "\\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\\"")
\n 图2
第2桌，叫牌进程和第一桌类似，止步于3n。
\n和这个叫牌进程一样的也有4桌。
\n ![\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/10/24/68fb65a91a5ed.png\" "\\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\\"")
\n 图3
第3桌，叫牌进程如图3所示，南3h阻击，西根本未顾及套，直接争叫4d。
东的处境比第一、二桌更难，有心叫4n问关键张，单Q，可能有输墩，别的花色叫不得，保守点叫5d算了。
\n![\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/10/24/68fb65e82daaa.png\" "\\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\\"")
\n 图4
第4桌，叫牌进程如图4所示，西加倍显示4张开叫以上实力，北4h加深阻击，东直接跳6S封局。
北4h加叫占了东西的叫牌空间，使得东面临猜断，东6s也是无奈之举。
\n![\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/10/24/68fb660d77876.png\" "\\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\\"")
\n 图5
第5桌，西也是争叫3d，北4h加深阻击，这给了东借力打力的机会，东机智地加倍，显示和草花两套，西4s。
东4n问关键张后叫上6s，其实东还可以再问边花K的，说不定就叫到7s了。有点可惜。
\n ![\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/10/24/68fb663b2ffa6.png\" "\\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\\"")
\n 图6
第6桌，西加倍，东4h显示和一低花套，西4s。
东问关键张后再问边花K，顺利冲上7s。
\n![\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/10/24/68fb665caa71f.png\" "\\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\\"")
\n 图7
第7桌的叫牌进程和第6桌类似。均成功叫到7s。
\n ![\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/10/24/68fb668e7d674.png\" "\\"叫牌探讨——铁的7s叫不上，都是干扰惹的祸？\\"")
\n 图8
第8桌，面对西的技术性加倍，北的再加倍值得商榷，本意可能是让同伴叫自己的套吧。
\n不过这就给了东西充裕的叫牌空间了，西顺势叫出套，北这时又加叫，进一步暴露了牌情。
东4h逼叫，西叫出第二套，后面的7s就是顺理成章的事了。
假如北不再加倍而是趁东西尚未充分交换牌情，叫3s或4h对套，东西未必能够叫的到7s最佳定约。
\n分析以上8桌叫牌进程，可以明显看出：
\n—前2桌西的3d和第3桌的4d争叫，歪曲了自己牌型，使东马上面临最终猜断。
\n—第5桌西也是争叫3d，但北的4h加叫给东提供了借力打力的机会，东得以澄清了自己牌情。
\n—第4、6、7、8桌的西则是先技术性加倍准确表达牌情，找到配合后核实关键张不缺，成功叫到6s或7s。
—前面3桌之所以叫牌失败，在于西家叫牌时对同伴下一步叫牌考虑不周，使得同伴立即面临最终猜断，导致找不到配合，自己给自己挖坑。
—后面5桌则是充分利用了叫牌空间和对手提供的机会，顺利找到将牌配合。
\n著名牌手、知名桥牌作家，英国的安德鲁.罗勃森、奥立佛·塞加尔在其合著的《竞叫中的默契》一书中反复强调:叫牌中要尽量避免最终猜断，反之，如果能迫使敌方进行最终猜断，那么敌方出错的机率就大得多。
\n这个牌例，再次证明了上述理论的正确性。
\n关于避免最终猜断，本公众号有篇文章也有涉及，有兴趣者可参阅《避免最终猜断——桥牌叫牌成功之道浅探》。
\n以上观点，各位桥友认同吗？如果你坐东西，有什么好的手段叫到合理定约呢？请留言或私信参与探讨。
\n最后给天翼联赛做个广告，该赛事是湖南电信天翼俱乐部，在桥友圈组织的高水平网赛，截止目前有58支队伍参加，其中有多支湖南省内省外的甲级强队。比赛分排位赛和决赛两个阶段，每周星期三晚上八点开赛。
\n赛事精彩纷呈，尤以转播桌值得关注，一般都是转播排名靠前队伍的捉对厮杀。张韧老师的解说十分接地气，笔者看过多场，每次都有不同程度的收获。
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听过这样一句话：“婚姻是围城，三观不合的人困于其中，既无法亲近，也难以脱身，只能在彼此消耗中苦苦挣扎。”
\n年少时，总以为找个三观契合的人，婚姻就会幸福。
\n可现实是，哪怕三观一致，也会因生活方式不同而争执不断，频繁冷战，最终相看生厌。
\n直到后来才明白，好的婚姻，不仅在于想法一致，更在于五感相通。
\n一个眼神、一句肯定、一次倾听、一个拥抱、一分理解……这些细微之处，才是感情长久的养分。
\n![\"发现一个奇怪的现象：夫妻之间凡是感情不和的，大都“五感不通”\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/05/27/6835b1c1b8428.jpg\" "\\"发现一个奇怪的现象：夫妻之间凡是感情不和的，大都“五感不通”\\"")
看见对方，比争对错更重要
\n有句话说：“爱情是一颗蜜糖，会不断放大对方的优点；婚姻是现实，会放大对方的缺点，掩埋对方的优点。”
\n很多夫妻总会遇到这样的场景：
\n因一点小事争吵，吵着吵着就变成相互指责，直到精疲力尽，仍僵持不下。
\n事后冷静了又后悔：“不过是鸡毛蒜皮的事，为什么会闹得这么僵？”
\n其实，争执的背后，往往是因为我们忽视了对方的好。
\n朋友有段时间，经常跟老公因为生活琐事争吵不断。
\n一开口，就进入“战斗模式”：她控诉丈夫总挑自己毛病，丈夫埋怨她总不长记性。
\n渐渐地，两人的亲密感逐渐被消磨。
\n一次，她听到同事夸赞自己的伴侣，这才意识到，丈夫并没有自己想的那么差，一直用行动默默表达爱：
\n会在她上班前，准备一杯热牛奶；冬天睡觉时，提前在被窝里塞暖水袋……
\n只是自己一味盯着对方的错，对这些付出视而不见。
\n回家后，她一反常态说了句：“今天谢谢你帮我关了灯。”
\n丈夫一愣，随即笑道：“其实，每次我都会顺手关掉。”
\n后来，她总会留意丈夫的一举一动，心里的感动越来越多，不仅不再跟丈夫吵，还经常夸丈夫的好，两人的关系越来越亲密。
\n科学研究证明：“当一个人被看见、被认可，内心会更有安全感，也更愿意去回应这份爱。”
\n当亲密关系有了良性的情感互动，爱就开始在心间流动，彼此间的接纳和包容就会慢慢增多。
\n即使发生冲突，也能及时化解，不会陷入无休止地争执。
\n![\"发现一个奇怪的现象：夫妻之间凡是感情不和的，大都“五感不通”\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/05/27/6835b1c2d8e21.jpg\" "\\"发现一个奇怪的现象：夫妻之间凡是感情不和的，大都“五感不通”\\"")
会听，比会说更暖心
\n《爱的五种语言》里，有一对夫妻结婚17年。
\n有天妻子突然提离婚，原因是：
\n每当她向丈夫倾诉工作的烦恼，丈夫都立刻给建议。
\n可第二天她又提起同样的问题，丈夫依旧很不耐烦。
\n反复几次后，丈夫愤怒地告诉她：“如果你不听我的建议，那就别再抱怨了，我也不想再听，更不会同情你。”
\n从此，妻子便不再倾诉了，还动了离开的念头。
\n因为她真正需要的是倾听、理解、关注，而不是被教育。
\n婚姻里，情商最低的行为，就是不停地说教。
\n讲道理，其实是在暗示“你不对”，只会加剧对方的负面情绪，让他更激动。
\n只有给足另一半共情，才能真正缓解他的情绪。
\n前段时间，表妹和姐姐起了争执，心情极差。
\n她向老公抱怨，老公没有安慰她，而是问：“发生了什么事，让你这么难过？”
\n他耐心听完，没有急于评判对错，而是试着共情妻子的情绪，确认自己的理解是否到位：
\n“你很爱姐姐，但受不了她的强势，你希望她能多尊重你的意见，对吗？”
\n这句话正中她的委屈。
\n即使问题未解，她也不再难受，反而有了解决问题的勇气。
\n《共情的力量》里有句话：“共情是把你的耳朵放到别人的灵魂中，用心聆听那里最急切的喃喃私语。”
\n只有愿意倾听对方的烦恼与不开心，才能拆除对方的心墙，摘下防备的面具，毫无保留地交付信任。
\n虽然人与人很难完全感同身受，但换位思考，理解他的情绪，依然能让他如沐春风，倍感踏实，从而一步一步建立深度的情感链接。
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对胃口，比承诺更抓人心
\n网上有人问：“真的有人因伴侣做饭好吃，舍不得分手吗？”
\n这个话题引发网友热烈讨论。
\n有人打趣到“在一起六年，不敢换对象，他做饭太对我胃口了”；
\n也有网友分享“男友专做我爱吃的，三年了，准备嫁了”；
\n甚至有人感慨“当初在一起，就是留学时，他那台电饭煲俘获了我的心”。
\n厨房里的烟火气，餐桌上的欢笑，比海誓山盟更让人心动。
\n我家小姨和姨父，总能忙里偷闲，挤出时间共进晚餐。
\n工作日没时间做饭，他们就一起去探店。
\n姨父不太能吃辣，小姨偏爱火锅，可姨父照样陪着她去。
\n不仅如此，他还特意挑选重庆、四川正宗麻辣火锅店。
\n每次小姨看他被辣得直吸气、猛灌凉茶，劝他吃不辣的锅底。他总笑着说：“没事，我要锻炼自己吃辣的能力。”
\n每次吃完火锅后的那几天，小姨再忙也会回家做饭，为姨父准备清淡饭菜，细心照顾他的肠胃。
\n听过这样一句话：“爱情若不落到吃饭这件实实在在的事上，是不会长久的。”
\n夫妻之间，吃在一起，心才会在一起。
\n为对方准备喜欢的食物，满足对方的味蕾，带来的不仅是饱腹感，还有被爱的直觉。
\n这种爱不仅有包容、开放、尊重，还有“我愿意爱你所爱，为你改变”的深情厚意。
\n![\"发现一个奇怪的现象：夫妻之间凡是感情不和的，大都“五感不通”\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/05/27/6835b1c3432f5.jpg\" "\\"发现一个奇怪的现象：夫妻之间凡是感情不和的，大都“五感不通”\\"")
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亲一亲，抱一抱，比情话更能拉近彼此的距离
\n有网友分享了她的故事。
\n事业上升期，她经常出差，每次回到家，丈夫已睡熟，第二天又早早起床，匆忙赶去上班。
\n虽然彼此还会说“早安”“晚安”“我爱你”，可听起来更像例行公事，毫无温度。
\n无形中，两人的关系发生了变化，却又说不上来哪里出了问题。
\n一次出差回来，看到同事的丈夫早早等在机场出口，见到妻子，立刻上前抱住她。
\n她站在原地，心酸涌上心头，突然意识到，自己想要的也是一个久别重逢的拥抱，一次下意识地牵手。
\n可她和丈夫之间，很久没有这样的互动了。
\n那天晚上，她终于开口表达了自己的委屈和想法。
\n丈夫一惊，他以为婚姻里最重要的是责任和担当，没想到，妻子最需要的是彼此靠近。
\n从那天起，他不管多晚都会等她回家，一开门就把她的行李接过来，顺势把她搂进怀里。
\n丈夫的举动，让她感觉所有的疲累和压力都不值一提了。
\n科学研究表明，每天20秒的亲密接触，能有效缓解焦虑，增强安全感。
\n肢体接触，特别是拥抱，能促使大脑分泌大量“催产素”，即爱情荷尔蒙，这会让人产生很强的依恋感和幸福感。
\n与此同时，被称为“压力荷尔蒙”的皮质醇水平则会显著下降，负面情绪，会随之消散。
\n亲亲、抱抱是最棒的充电方式，它能带来无限的温暖和力量，抚平心中的焦虑与压力。
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给对方呼吸感，比掌控更能让关系稳固
\n有人说：“关系再好，也需要适当的呼吸感，窒息的爱，只会让人想逃离。”
\n人人都想婚姻幸福长久，却常常因为控制欲太强，反而把对方越推越远。
\n《你要的是幸福，还是对错》书中有个案例，正是如此：
\n作者的领导，每到整点都要向太太汇报行踪，哪怕正在开会，也得悄悄拿出手机报备。
\n太太的强势，让他的生活完全没有自由。
\n他的零用钱每天只够买一份简餐，一旦和同事们去稍远一点的餐馆聚餐，就会陷入囊中羞涩的窘境。
\n更让人窒息的是，太太总是不定时地突击查岗。
\n她一出现，刚还谈笑风生的领导，瞬间僵住，连大气都不敢喘，怯懦又卑微。
\n他深知，太太不愿自己与同事走得太近，要是违背了她的意愿，便是一场无法承受的风暴。
\n正因这份过度压抑，他有了越轨的举动，试图在婚外情中找到喘息的机会。
\n案例中背叛婚姻的举动，固然不值得提倡，可掌控欲太强，终究不是好事。
\n在亲密关系里，关心和约束过度，容易让人感到窒息，只想逃离。
\n控制从来不是维系感情的最好方式，我们以为自己“牢牢抓住”了对方，换来的可能只是对方费尽心思的“演戏”。
\n只有在婚姻中，彼此相处轻松无负担，才能长久相伴不生厌。
\n![\"发现一个奇怪的现象：夫妻之间凡是感情不和的，大都“五感不通”\"](\"https://joyimg.cpolar.top/i/2025/05/27/6835b1c3bca4c.jpg\" "\\"发现一个奇怪的现象：夫妻之间凡是感情不和的，大都“五感不通”\\"")
很认同一句话：“没有人不渴望婚姻幸福，只是有人不懂得怎样让婚姻幸福。”
\n婚姻的核心，从来不是爱，而是五感相通。
\n我们因为相爱步入婚姻，别让相处消磨了爱意。
\n你知我冷暖，我懂你悲欢，才能成为对方余生中无可替代的陪伴。
\n【转自网络】
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Yang Wanli
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Workers load durians for export at a transport center in Chanthaburi, Thailand, in June.
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\nBefore moving to Thailand two years ago, I had never tried durian — the spiky fruit that has become so popular among adventurous Chinese eaters. Its stinky odor alone was enough to knock me down before I could muster the courage for a bite.
\nI had always thought I wasn't "the durian type". Yet, I could not help but appreciate the miracle of this fresh fruit.
\nMy first encounter came during an interview at a durian orchard, where I could hardly say no to the worker who had picked a fresh durian from a tree and put a golden, chubby piece in my hand with a smile full of hope.
\n"When in Rome ... I can do this," I told myself, forcing a calm demeanor. The taste was beyond my expectations. The offensive smell faded as the fresh pulp melted in my mouth, its texture as soft as whipped cream. The complex and rich flavor opened the door to durian paradise, as many of its fans might describe it.
\nAt that moment, I finally understood why many people love that fruit so much.
\nSince then, I've visited durian farms, markets and processing factories across Thailand. The rich diversity of Thai durian has been an eye-opening experience.
\nApart from Monthong, or Golden Pillow — the dominant variety in the Chinese market — I came to recognize many other names: Kradoom, Puangmanee, Lueangthong, Daokrajai, Sithong and Sai Khao.
\nExperts say Thailand boasts more than 200 durian species, distinguished by shape, size of thorns, texture of pulps, and a great variety of tastes — from sweet, bitter and honey-like to those with notes of caramel, nuts and sometimes a subtle hint of savory or almond.
\nOver the past decade, durian has become a link between the taste buds of Chinese and Thai people. The fruit's export boom shows no signs of slowing: Last year alone, Thailand shipped 833,000 metric tons of durian to China, worth $3.7 billion, accounting for 97.4 percent of China's durian market.
\nOnline sales have soared, with vendors leveraging platforms such as Douyin and Taobao to launch "Thai Durian Day" campaigns, while partnering with key influencers to sell directly to consumers via livestreams.
\nThe lucrative durian trade has drawn numerous Chinese investors to Thailand, where they run orchards or provide logistics services. What began as a shared love for the fruit is evolving into a mutually beneficial partnership through joint ventures that strengthen bilateral ties.
\nFor years, Chinese enthusiasm for Thai durian has been well-known among local people. During my visits to orchards across eastern and southern Thailand, many farmers told me, "Great minds think alike."
\nThai farmers continue to win over Chinese fans with deliciousness, or haochi in Mandarin. However, many were barely aware that most Chinese consumers lacked the knowledge to recognize high-quality durians — until the BY2 contamination issue surfaced early this year, severely affecting Thai durian exports to China.
\nIn January, Chinese customs tightened inspections after detecting Basic Yellow 2, a commercial dye unsafe for food. This triggered rejected shipments, returned cargos, investigations into packing processes, temporary suspensions of some exporters and packing houses, and a push by Thailand to set up approved laboratories for BY2 testing.
\nThe safety crisis led to misunderstandings among Chinese consumers concerned about Thai durian safety, while Thai farmers suffered great losses because of the chemical added during packing.
\nDuring my interviews with durian farms and local agricultural testing centers earlier this year, industry insiders revealed that the BY2 use was actually a new trend driven by wrong knowledge of durians among consumers, as many believed that durians with bright yellow shells were ripe ones.
\n"People who suffered most are innocent farmers who have followed the traditional way of plantation for generations and have no idea about the dyeing procedure after harvest," Duanrung Benjamas, manager of the Eastern Agricultural and Food Product Research and Innovation Development Center at Rambhai Barni Rajabhat University in Chanthaburi Province, told me.
\nThe issue served as a good lesson for Thailand, Duanrung said. "As the country aims to be a global fruit exporter, we need to upgrade the fresh fruit industry with full traceability, from orchard to market, to meet high international standards," she said, while also calling for consumer education on fruits.
\nGrowing up in China, I've witnessed how public awareness of food safety has changed dramatically over the years, as scandals — from dyed goji berries to infant formula tainted with chemical melamine — received more media exposure.
\nThese crises resulted in stricter standards and supervision by regulatory authorities, while also improving public perception, from whether they can eat enough to whether they can eat well.
\nAs Duanrung mentioned, the food safety scandal offered a good lesson — not only for Thai producers but also for Chinese consumers. Our habit of judging fruit quality by appearance needs to change, and our knowledge of food, especially new kinds of food, should always be updated.
\nAgriculture plays an important role in Thailand's economy, and Thais are very proud of their agricultural products. Farmers in Thailand respect both nature and traditional farming wisdom — a value system that resonates strongly with the Chinese.
\nThe BY2 scandal helped the Thai fruit industry upgrade, with more investment from the government in testing and scientific farming. It also raised the safety standards of fruits imported into China and increased Chinese consumers' knowledge of this "king of fruits" — a positive change that will foster closer partnerships in the future.
\nContact the writer at yangwanli@chinadaily.com.cn
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\nWorkers load durians for export at a transport center in Chanthaburi, Thailand, in June.
\n\nBefore moving to Thailand two years ago, I had never tried durian — the spiky fruit that has become so popular among adventurous Chinese eaters. Its stinky odor alone was enough to knock me down before I could muster the courage for a bite.
\nI had always thought I wasn't "the durian type". Yet, I could not help but appreciate the miracle of this fresh fruit.
\nMy first encounter came during an interview at a durian orchard, where I could hardly say no to the worker who had picked a fresh durian from a tree and put a golden, chubby piece in my hand with a smile full of hope.
\n"When in Rome ... I can do this," I told myself, forcing a calm demeanor. The taste was beyond my expectations. The offensive smell faded as the fresh pulp melted in my mouth, its texture as soft as whipped cream. The complex and rich flavor opened the door to durian paradise, as many of its fans might describe it.
\nAt that moment, I finally understood why many people love that fruit so much.
\nSince then, I've visited durian farms, markets and processing factories across Thailand. The rich diversity of Thai durian has been an eye-opening experience.
\nApart from Monthong, or Golden Pillow — the dominant variety in the Chinese market — I came to recognize many other names: Kradoom, Puangmanee, Lueangthong, Daokrajai, Sithong and Sai Khao.
\nExperts say Thailand boasts more than 200 durian species, distinguished by shape, size of thorns, texture of pulps, and a great variety of tastes — from sweet, bitter and honey-like to those with notes of caramel, nuts and sometimes a subtle hint of savory or almond.
\nOver the past decade, durian has become a link between the taste buds of Chinese and Thai people. The fruit's export boom shows no signs of slowing: Last year alone, Thailand shipped 833,000 metric tons of durian to China, worth $3.7 billion, accounting for 97.4 percent of China's durian market.
\nOnline sales have soared, with vendors leveraging platforms such as Douyin and Taobao to launch "Thai Durian Day" campaigns, while partnering with key influencers to sell directly to consumers via livestreams.
\nThe lucrative durian trade has drawn numerous Chinese investors to Thailand, where they run orchards or provide logistics services. What began as a shared love for the fruit is evolving into a mutually beneficial partnership through joint ventures that strengthen bilateral ties.
\nFor years, Chinese enthusiasm for Thai durian has been well-known among local people. During my visits to orchards across eastern and southern Thailand, many farmers told me, "Great minds think alike."
\nThai farmers continue to win over Chinese fans with deliciousness, or haochi in Mandarin. However, many were barely aware that most Chinese consumers lacked the knowledge to recognize high-quality durians — until the BY2 contamination issue surfaced early this year, severely affecting Thai durian exports to China.
\nIn January, Chinese customs tightened inspections after detecting Basic Yellow 2, a commercial dye unsafe for food. This triggered rejected shipments, returned cargos, investigations into packing processes, temporary suspensions of some exporters and packing houses, and a push by Thailand to set up approved laboratories for BY2 testing.
\nThe safety crisis led to misunderstandings among Chinese consumers concerned about Thai durian safety, while Thai farmers suffered great losses because of the chemical added during packing.
\nDuring my interviews with durian farms and local agricultural testing centers earlier this year, industry insiders revealed that the BY2 use was actually a new trend driven by wrong knowledge of durians among consumers, as many believed that durians with bright yellow shells were ripe ones.
\n"People who suffered most are innocent farmers who have followed the traditional way of plantation for generations and have no idea about the dyeing procedure after harvest," Duanrung Benjamas, manager of the Eastern Agricultural and Food Product Research and Innovation Development Center at Rambhai Barni Rajabhat University in Chanthaburi Province, told me.
\nThe issue served as a good lesson for Thailand, Duanrung said. "As the country aims to be a global fruit exporter, we need to upgrade the fresh fruit industry with full traceability, from orchard to market, to meet high international standards," she said, while also calling for consumer education on fruits.
\nGrowing up in China, I've witnessed how public awareness of food safety has changed dramatically over the years, as scandals — from dyed goji berries to infant formula tainted with chemical melamine — received more media exposure.
\nThese crises resulted in stricter standards and supervision by regulatory authorities, while also improving public perception, from whether they can eat enough to whether they can eat well.
\nAs Duanrung mentioned, the food safety scandal offered a good lesson — not only for Thai producers but also for Chinese consumers. Our habit of judging fruit quality by appearance needs to change, and our knowledge of food, especially new kinds of food, should always be updated.
\nAgriculture plays an important role in Thailand's economy, and Thais are very proud of their agricultural products. Farmers in Thailand respect both nature and traditional farming wisdom — a value system that resonates strongly with the Chinese.
\nThe BY2 scandal helped the Thai fruit industry upgrade, with more investment from the government in testing and scientific farming. It also raised the safety standards of fruits imported into China and increased Chinese consumers' knowledge of this "king of fruits" — a positive change that will foster closer partnerships in the future.
\nContact the writer at yangwanli@chinadaily.com.cn
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